What are the reasons for the worsening relationship between husband and wife?

 Discord between husband and wife has become a very common phenomenon among people in their 30s and 40s. So why is the relationship between husband and wife getting worse and worse?

1. Not actively communicating

In interpersonal relationships, communication is always necessary. Through communication, you can understand others, and you can also make others understand you. If one person does not speak or ask, then even if they are close to each other, they will not be able to understand each other. Knowing what the other party is thinking, let alone what the other party wants, in the long run, the distance between the two people's hearts will definitely get farther and farther. Husbands and wives, although they are already very familiar with each other, and the "fresh" words that should be said are all finished at the beginning of the relationship and marriage, but it is also necessary to maintain the habit of communication. Only by communicating with each other often can we understand each other. The state and changes in the heart can make adjustments in time. Many couples do not communicate actively, which leads to the worsening of the relationship.

2. Get used to the other party's contribution

In life, most people don't care more about people and things they are used to. For example, when a child goes to school, his mother is used to getting up every morning to make breakfast for him. One day, if his mother wakes up late, he will complain. Why didn't my mother make breakfast? She took her kindness to him for granted. Although the husband and wife are a family, there is no need to care about whose contribution, but they must not take each other's contribution for granted, nor can they completely deny each other's contribution. Some couples have a bad relationship because they have become accustomed to what each other does over time, and they take it for granted. Not only do they lose sight of each other's efforts and gratitude, but they also complain and blame.

3. Can't see each other's advantages

At the beginning of their relationship or marriage, two people must think that each other is the perfect partner, and they all feel good, but as the two become more familiar with each other, they will face many new problems after marriage, and their eyes will be slow. Slowly I can't see each other's advantages anymore, all I see are the emerging shortcomings, the title of the perfect partner has become a bad partner. So if you want to always be the perfect partner in each other's eyes, in addition to enhancing your own charm, you must also be good at discovering each other's advantages, and staring at each other's good points, not just the other side's bad. If the husband and wife only see each other's shortcomings and no advantages, then the relationship will get worse and worse.

4. Intercourse is out of tune

In life, intercourse is a very private topic, and it is also a very important topic. It is even more inevitable to talk about this topic between husband and wife. There are many husbands and wives who have weakened their relationship, probably not because they don’t love you anymore, nor because of what they have done. The thing that hurts the other party is because the sex is out of tune. For example, the husband often has needs, but the wife has no interest, not once for several weeks or even months, or every time it is like completing a task without any emotion. It is a normal phenomenon for people to have physiological needs. If they are not satisfied for a long time, it will affect their emotions. Long-term depression may also affect the relationship between husband and wife.

5. No common topic

In life, you can have no common topics with people you don't care about. You don't have to take the initiative to say anything to them, and you don't have to listen to them, but you must have some common topics with people you care about, otherwise there will be only silence. Even if you don't feel embarrassed at first, you will feel embarrassed after a long time, and your feelings will become weaker and weaker. Between husband and wife, it may be due to the different development of the two people, different things that they value, and different life circles. After a long time, the two people can't find the same point of interest, and they don't know what to talk about together. Not only are they not interested, but they also don't understand. In the end, everyone stopped talking, and the relationship gradually deteriorated.

What to do if the relationship between husband and wife is bad

1. Give each other more tolerance and understanding

Many times, the quarrel is not because the other party did something wrong, but because you misunderstood each other's meaning. In the future, try to be more tolerant and inclusive, understand and listen to each other, and communicate with each other calmly. Mutual understanding is a very important part of love. Many people quarrel over trivial matters of chai, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, and tea, and gradually wear down their former passion.

2. Learn to speak appropriately

Many people think that love words are for boys to say, no, love words, those sweet words, are the lubricant of love, and both men and women need to have a sense of coaxing each other to be happy. Many people are dissatisfied with life after marriage because you lack management and do not satisfy each other emotionally.

3. More communication and more exchanges

Conflict in love is a common and inevitable thing. Many couples have a weak relationship. In fact, it is not because of the quarrel itself, but the escalation of the conflict. The problem was not fixed. This is often due to a lack of communication and communication between the two, and it's much better to talk than to have a chaotic quarrel.

4. Create freshness

Freshness is a very important point in love! Try new things together, such as eating dishes from other countries that you have never eaten before, playing games that you have never dared to play before, traveling to places you have long loved, challenging an "impossible" thing together, and changing your hairstyle together ......In these processes, you will not only know each other better, but also increase the sense of sweetness and mystery, and feel that the other party has endless charm to pursue and explore, and will not cause aesthetic fatigue to you.

5. Sleep with each other

Sleeping in your arms is a very sweet sleeping position, it will make the other party feel that you are very dependent on him (her) and feel sorry for him (her). The work is very tiring, and there is little communication during the day. If you don’t take care after a tired day, and sleep separately at night, the other party will feel disappointed.